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Soft Life Is Not a Crime: Why Nigerian Women Are Choosing Peace Over Pressure


There’s a quiet revolution happening, and women all over the world are embracing it. We’re tired of glorifying stress. Tired of breaking our backs to prove we’re “strong.” 

As a matter of fact, I've often heard people say afterall "there's no trophy for who suffered the most".

This year, more women are unapologetically choosing the soft life, a life of ease, peace, self-care, and boundaries. And let me say this loud and clear: soft life is not laziness. 

It’s healing.


In this post, I’m sharing why I would choose soft living over and over again, what it really means (beyond Instagram aesthetics). Then how you can start your soft life journey, without going broke.


What Is Soft Life, Really?

It’s not just sipping wine in silk robes. Soft life is saying:

- “No” without guilt.

- Prioritizing mental health & wellness.

- Slowing down to enjoy small joys.

- Resting without shame.

- Yes to healthy relationships & boundaries.

- Yes to peace, beauty & ambiance.


It’s choosing yourself, on purpose.


The awakening

The point where you decide to take it easy on yourself, hustle smart and not so hard. That day you transition from Hustle Queen to Peace-Seeker.

For years, some of us believed "if I wasn’t working hard, I wasn’t worthy". 

Burnout became a badge, a medal of honour. 

Not that there's anything wrong with dignified labor, I'm talking about knowing where to draw the line.

Some just know, others gets forced into taking things easy. When life forces us to pause, sometimes it would have been due to accumulated burnouts, which might present as health challenges, mental stress or physical breakdown. 

For some life's happenings like grief, motherhood, self-reflection are what triggers the realisation that peace is a priority, not a privilege.

What was your trigger point? Comment it or answer to yourself.


Ways to Embracing the Soft Life in 2025

Little mindful practices that can help you win at this self-care journey :

- Morning silence before phone scrolling

- Saying no to people-pleasing

- Creating boundaries (digital and all that)

- Choosing joy over comparison

- Resting when neccessary, without explaining yourself

.....the list goes on and on and on.

What it'll cost you

You Don’t Need Millions to Start Soft Living; it isn’t about money. 

It’s a mindset. 

You can:

- Spend time in nature (walks, quiet reflection)

- Cook slowly and eat mindfully

- Light a candle and journal

- Have yourself a spa date 

- Movie dates: at the cinema, at home (e.g. with Netflix/Showmax and set the mood in your space)

Again......it goes on and on and on.

Pause and breathe, it’s free, and powerful. In other words take time to enjoy your life sometimes.


Faith + Feminine Energy = My New Power Combo

I’ve found that the softest, most beautiful version of myself emerges when I surrender to God and embrace grace. As a woman of faith, soft living reminds me of Proverbs 31: “She is clothed with strength and dignity…” Strength doesn't always shout. Sometimes, it rests.


Want to Try the Soft Life? Start Here

- Identify one area where you need rest.

- Create space for quiet, 10 mins a day Is a good place to start

- Set one boundary this week.

- Celebrate your softness, it’s sacred.


In conclusion, sis. the world may call it lazy, but you know better. The soft life is your birthright. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. 

Do a retrospect sometime after and see if PEACE LOOKS GOOD ON YOU.


Your turn: Are you embracing soft life? What does it look like for you? Share with me in the comments or tag me if you post about it!

I am Bebby 👋 SHALLOM!

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